Ask HN: Notification Overload

HN melts down: ditch the pings, embrace paper, or tame your phone like a boss

TLDR: A frazzled user says constant phone alerts made them miss a friend’s birthday, sparking a Hacker News showdown. Commenters split between going analog (paper calendars), using Android’s Digital Wellbeing to cap alerts, and strict whitelists for calls and texts—proof we need boundaries before our phones run our lives.

The original post reads like a modern cry for help: too many pings, missed a best friend’s birthday, and now fantasizing about becoming an off‑grid hermit. The comments? A full‑on notification culture war. One camp goes full unplugged—mikewarot proudly runs no email, no social apps, just texts and a muted Discord for family. Another camp brings tech to fight tech: iberator pitches Android’s Digital Wellbeing like a parental control for your dopamine, limiting alerts by app, time, and priority. Meanwhile, apothegm plays bouncer to the buzz, whitelisting only SMS, calls from family, Slack mentions during work, and calendar—everything else waits at the door.

Then the plot twist: paper is back. tacostakohashi drops the hottest retro take—“use a printed calendar, a filofax”—and the thread suddenly feels like a cozy stationery shop. treetalker adds therapist energy with a system: group notifications by what you’re actually trying to do, then process them at set times—make it boring so your brain chills. The meme of the day: cookie pop‑ups as the final boss, and “permission to invade my OS” as the new jump scare. The mood is equal parts burn it all down and build better boundaries, with the community split between analog peace and digital discipline.

Key Points

  • The author is overwhelmed by high volumes of notifications from emails, texts, and calls.
  • They frequently silence or turn off their phone, which leads to missing important information.
  • Repeated efforts to unsubscribe, delete, and adjust settings are undone by reinstalling or resubscribing.
  • An important event (a friend’s birthday) was missed despite being in a calendar due to notification overload.
  • The author criticizes persistent cookie consent pop-ups and websites requesting OS permissions, noting the problem feels worse over time.

Hottest takes

"I don't have email hooked to my phone directly" — mikewarot
"On Android you have stock Digital Wellbeing app" — iberator
"how about a calendar printed on paper? A filofax?" — tacostakohashi
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